I know this is a really late post. But happiness is about to share, right? :)
Finally, the engagement day has come. It was on Sunday morning, December 9th 2012, a beautiful sunny day. I'm telling you, I was so nervous and already woke up at 3 am! I couldn't sleep, I thought about many things, my heart beat so fast, and I couldn't believe the man I met a year ago would come on that day to propose me. When he came to my house for the first time, he right away told my parents that he wants to marry me. Yes, my man is a very brave man.
Fikar's big family came a long way from Jakarta to Bandung, only for this engagement event :') They arrived at my grandmother's house at 10 am. Look at the long line!
The excited face of my man and a "are you ready, son?" expression from his father :)
(At that time, I was really nervous in the bedroom. I was not allowed to come out until my parents pick me up.)
After the greetings, my uncle asked Fikar's family (which is presented by his uncle), what is the intention by coming here. (This is just the part of the engagement ceremony in my culture. We all know what is the intention :p ) They're coming here as the request of Fikar, to ask me, to propose me to be his wife. My uncle who set up the event, planned to make a "prank" before I showed up. My parents came up with two of my cousins, asked Fikar if she's the girl he wants to propose or not. This "prank" was really worked. I heard the laughter and I became more nervous. That means I will come out from the room very soon and meet my man :)
See the laughter by the prank? :D
And tadaaaaaaa, I'm showing up!
My happy face seeing my man :)
And this is the highlight. My man, the man that I love, proposed me to be his wife.
Watch the video :)
"Waktu aku pertama kali ketemu kamu dan ngobrol sama kamu, ada sesuatu yang kuat di dalam diri aku yang ngebuat aku berdoa... Aku berdoa Ya Allah, kalau memang setiap manusia yang Engkau ciptakan punya jodohnya masing-masing, izinkanlah wanita yang aku lihat sekarang adalah jodoh aku. Waktu itu aku pulang, dari abis ketemu kamu dan aku cerita ke Mama kalau aku jatuh hati hari itu. Terus aku minta sama Mama dan Papa, doakan aku karena ridho Papa dan Mama adalah ridho Allah, dan setelah itu kita deket dan langsung aku minta permintaan terakhir ke Papa Mama tentang kamu. Aku minta mereka izinkan dan minta restu mereka untuk menikah dengan kamu dan minta mereka melamar kamu. Jadi hari ini aku dateng, Nadya, dengan keluarga aku, dengan rahmat Allah, dengan orang tuaku, aku pengen kamu jadi istri aku."
"When I first met you and talk to you, there's something strong inside me that made me pray... I prayed, Dear God, if every human that you create has their soul mate, let the woman I'm looking now be my soul mate. After I met you, I got home, I told my mom that I fell in love with you. Then I asked my parents, asked for their prayer, because my parents' blessing is God's blessing. And after that we were getting closer, then I asked for the last permission about you. I asked my parents to give their permission to marry you and I asked them to propose you. So today I come, Nadya, with my family, with God's blessing, with my parents, I want you to be my wife."
I can't say any thing, any word. I am speechless, I am touched.
My happy tears for the most beautiful proposal from My Man :')
Every girl, every woman who watched the proposal, drop their tears. Even my dad. I didn't know what to say, my voice trembled, I didn't know what I said at that time. (You can hear what I said from the video :p) All I wanted to say was thankful words to God who has sent a man that I need, a man for me, a man who love and respect me that much.
Their happy tears :')
I was sooo relieved after that. Happy and grateful, that's all I can say :)
Beautiful mothers :)
In my culture, after the proposal, the mother of the man will give some presents or "hantaran/seserahan" for the girl. The mother of the girl will give some presents too. Usually the mother of the man will give jewelry, some amount of money, food, clothes, and other stuff.
I remember when we looked each other and held each other hand after the event. We are sooo happy! We can't stop smiling and greet our families, relatives, and friends.
With our beautiful mothers.
With the parents.
With my family.
With Fikar's family.
With my best girls.
With Fikar's best friends.
And this is Nadya and Fikar, the bride and groom-to-be!
We will be married in May, Insya Allah, we are working on it. My everyday now is about wedding preparation. So excited! Keep praying for us :)
This is why I write this post today. A year ago, February 19th 2012, Fikar and I met at his office. I was interviewed for job vacancy. I remember he sat in front of me and looked me with his sharp eyes. I didn't like it, I didn't like him at that time. But I knew he fell in love with me at first sight, and I am right. He told me, when I entered the room, he knew right away that I am the one. Therefore, he marked my chair after the interview :)
Fidea Headquarter, February 19th 2012.
A year ago.
The day we met. The day that changed everything.
I love you, Ikang :)
More stories from us will come, and those will be more than a fairy tale.